The journey started in 2004 when a group of like-minded professionals from Monmouth and Ocean counties met to explore a new process to resolve divorce away from the court system. We were all litigators; some of us had incorporated mediation in to our practice. We all saw the toll emotionally and financially on the families that we assisted. We all felt the stress of dealing with judges and court procedure and the litigation costs imposed on our clients. Emotionally, both clients and attorneys suffered. We were concerned that we brought families to a process that increased, not reduced the turmoil they already experienced as they tried to separate. They were often “settling” in resignation because they could not sustain the financial burden of the litigation any longer and that only left them to return to the courthouse to straighten out the problems that kept surfacing. There was clearly no closure. They needed to have a process that would address their emotional anxiety, provide a financial plan built for the future and a durable agreement.
Becoming a part of this group became a focus then and continues to be the driving force in my practice today. I concentrate on the resolution of family matters WITHOUT LITIGATION.
We founded the Jersey Shore Collaborative Law Group SCLG to learn and to teach the principles of collaborative divorce. We sought out those professionals who aspired to practice the principles of a collaborative divorce, and clients who valued the ability to set their direction in their divorce. Because of our efforts, the NJCLA is now enacted in this State of New Jersey. We have followed the lead of nine other states to make this process a significant option for the divorce process. It has the blessing of the Legislature who see all too often the devastation on families that we have experienced.
The NJFCLA now captures all of the important features that make this process so effective for couples:
1)attorneys who pledge to assist the couple to reach an agreement without litigation;
2)neutral financial professional who will provide objective information for options and not become a hired gun for either side;
3)mental health professional who assist with communication issues between the couple that creates obstacles in making meaningful decisions and to assist in drafting a parenting plan for effective co-parenting for many years to come.
Support, structure, and the creation of a durable plan by the couple for the future is the vision of a collaborative divorce.
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