This is message from a couple, “John” and “Jen” (their names have been changed) in a collaborative divorce to their friends. They have committed to this process to maintain the relationship that they want and need for their children. They have experienced anger, disappointment, mistrust and other negative feelings associated with divorce. Yet they reach back to the bond they once had and move to higher ground…
We are reaching out to give you some news … we have decided to separate. We love each other very much and relationships are complicated. We came to this decision after much work and discussion. This decision has not been easy but we consider it to be for the best.
“John” will remain in the house and “Jen” is in a winter rental at the beach until May. “Tommy” and “Cindy” will remain our top priority and will spend equal time with us. They are aware of everything and are doing great. We are working out the details and don’t have all the answers but we do know we are going to be the most epic parents possible.
We wish things had gone differently and are not blaming or bashing each other. We are and will remain very close and aren’t interested in being ugly about any of the details that go along with this kind of thing. We know this will be upsetting for our friends. We treasure your friendship and want you to know you don’t have to pick sides. We ask for your continued friendship, kindness, love and support as we walk this out together. Also, if you have something to say, please let it be out of love and with words of encouragement. We still have to deliver this news to our families and because this is a small town, we decided to tell you first. We will need you, our army of closest friends to be our advocates and keep conversations positive and encourage people to respect our privacy.
We love you all and look forward to our continued friendship.
This is offered with the parties’ permissions.